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Barack Obama, against all odds and all things remaining equal as they seemed to have been all this while, emerged victorious, and will today, at exactly 6pm Nigerian time and 12 noon American time, be sworn-in as the 44th president of the United States. A no mean achievement, no doubt.
However, the issues that have rather kept the mind agitated since his emergence from that historic election remains this. Exactly what, was it that made it possible for him to have succeeded where other equally great and charismatic leaders of coloured origin scarcely made a dent? How did he develop that uncommon confidence in his own ability against a very “experienced” opponent? Why was his intelligence and personality so electrifying, to the extent as to cause majority of the voting public in America to cast their lots and that of the greatest nation on earth with him, as attested to by the votes?
The answer to all of the above questions can be summed up in just two words, made up of twenty five alphabets- transformational parenting. He, unlike most of his contemporaries in public life, got a kind of training that enabled the psychological balancing of his personality.
So, rather than the defeatist approach to life of most African-Americans which sees them always locating the reasons for their failures to excel in life outside of self, he confronted the challenges of life with the winner attitude, believing that any loss thereof would not be because, he is of lesser intelligence nor of the unlikely skin colouration required for such, but be due to the probabilities that is always attached to any worthy enterprise, after all probable contingencies has been planned for.
Mentally, man is proved to be composed of many complexes, each striving to gain complete dominance over the others and consequently, him. The only fact to be feared here is that, should any of the complexes gain complete and permanent control over us, we become everything but complete and wanted humans.
But this is not in any way suggesting that we would be better off without them; no! In fact, it is most supremely desirable in man. For without it, he would be as empty as computer hardware- just potentially useful. These complexes, which are constantly in a kind of “survival of the fittest” relationship with one another becomes destructive only where any one of them is unconsciously allowed to on a permanent basis, dominate the other and us. However, there is always one by whose outward manifestation our personality, is perceived, so, we are described as, stubborn, gentle, bad, good etc by the manifestation of this complex depending on what it represents.
To understand the importance of complexes, we just x-ray the fear complex. At its balanced level, it serves to help us preserve our lives by taking only calculated risk but at its extreme, it paralyzes us and stops us from doing anything and becoming nothing.
In Obama’s case, different circumstances and environment where he found himself helped to bring out the best of the complexes in him as the dominant one. This accounts for why, the media did not get tired of describing him as charismatic and charming unlike his main rival who tried so late in life to alter his dominant traits with the unintended application of the wrong defence mechanism-displacement.
The best time to alter complexes-both those inherited from our parents and those we picked up by accident of the environment we found ourselves- to bring out the best of our personality is in the mornings of our lives and not in the afternoon nor evenings! Old habit they say die-hard and besides, you cannot hope to teach an old man new manners with ease. Once filled with information from both our parents and the environment, the soul or mind cannot be, easily altered. The mind filters information as it receives it and pass on only those that corresponds with our aspirations.
So, the duties of parents and intending ones today, is to research about complexes and how to help the young to become the best he/she can become. can you do that? yes you can! Don’t know how to go about it or Time? Well, just ask me! I will be glad to help you to help somebody become a leader, today!
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By Edward Sanford Martin
Within my, earthly temple, there is a crowd;
There is one of us that is humble, one that is proud;
There is one that is broken-hearted for his sins,
There is one that unrepentant, sits and grins,
There is one that loves his neighbour as himself,
And one that cares for naught but fame and pelf,
From such corroding, should I be free,
If I could once, determine which is me.
ilobi austin
http://www.articlesbase.com/parenting-articles/transformational-parenting-731677.html
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articel about sexual orientation what do you think about it?
Sexual Orientation Development
Sexual orientation is one component of a person’s identity, which is made up of many other components, such as culture, ethnicity, gender, and personality traits. Sexual orientation is an enduring emotional, romantic, sexual, or affectional attraction that a person feels toward another person. Sexual orientation falls along a continuum. In other words, someone does not have to be exclusively homosexual or heterosexual, but can feel varying degrees of attraction for both genders. Sexual orientation develops across a person’s lifetime—different people realize at different points in their lives that they are heterosexual, gay, lesbian, or bisexual.
Sexual behavior does not necessarily equate to sexual orientation. Many adolescents—as well as many adults—may identify themselves as homosexual or bisexual without having had any sexual experience. Other young people have had sexual experiences with a person of the same gender, but do not consider themselves to be gay, lesbian, or bisexual. This is particularly relevant during adolescence because it is a time for experimentation—a hallmark of this developmental period.
Gay, lesbian, and bisexual adolescents follow a develop-mental path that is both similar to and quite different from that followed by heterosexual adolescents. All teenagers face certain developmental challenges, such as developing social skills, thinking about career choices, and fitting into a peer group. Gay, lesbian, and bisexual youth must also cope with prejudiced, discriminatory, and violent behavior and messages in their families, schools, and communities. Such behavior and messages negatively affect the health, mental health and education of lesbian, gay, and bisexual young people. These students are more likely than heterosexual students to report missing school due to fear, being threatened by other students, and having their property damaged at school.1 The promotion of "reparative therapy" and "transformational ministry" is likely to exacerbate the risk of harassment, harm, and fear.
For these reasons, the experience of gay, lesbian, and bisexual teenagers is often one of isolation, fear of stigmatization, and lack of peer or familial support. Gay, lesbian, and bisexual youth have few opportunities for observing positive modeling by adults due to the general cultural bias that makes gay, lesbian, and bisexual people largely invisible. It is this isolation and lack of support that accounts in part for the higher rates of emotional distress,2 suicide attempts,3 and risky sexual behavior and substance use 4 that gay, lesbian, and bisexual students report compared to heterosexual students. Because of their legitimate fear of being harassed or hurt, gay, lesbian, or bisexual youth are less likely to ask for help. Thus, it is important that their environments be as open and accepting as possible, so these young people will feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and concerns. To be able to provide an accepting environment, school personnel need to understand the nature of sexual orientation development and be supportive of healthy development for all youth.
"Coming out" refers to the process of acknowledging one’s gay, lesbian, or bisexual attractions and identity to oneself and disclosing them to others. This process is different for every teenager; however, most adolescents disclose their sexual orientation to others in the following order: other gay, lesbian, and bisexual peers, close heterosexual peers, close family members, and finally, parents.5
Many people may wonder why gay, lesbian, and bisexual teenagers and adults feel the need to "come out," i.e., disclose their sexual orientation to others. This is actually the expression of a normal tendency to want to share personal information about oneself with important others, and should be treated as such by those around the gay, lesbian, or bisexual adolescent. It is healthy for teenagers to share with friends and families their latest crush or how they spent their weekend. This process, however, is often quite difficult for the gay, lesbian, or bisexual adolescent, because there is a strong (and well-founded) fear of being rejected by others.
Not bad at all.
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Thanks for this….
Whatsoever….
Be free of who you are….
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hmm… seems outdated….good, but outdated
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somewhat informative on the basics…. but its missing a few pieces.
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Where’s the credit? You write it or someone else?
Good. Plain, ordinary, common thoughts/knowledge. A little conversational at points. No errors. Good for informational purposes and for a slightly persuasive approach.
Sounds very familiar, but could be it’s so ordinary, and that’s why.
What do you want to know?
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interesting. i think it is great!
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When i’m finish reading then i will answer.
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SEXUAL ORIENTATION IS AN INVALID CONCEPT
It is anti-man, oppressive and manipulative.
Its only purpose is to label same-sex bonds in order to isolate them, persecute them and drive them out of the mainstream space (which is then named ’straight’).into a ghetto which actually belongs to the third sex.
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http://sexual-orientation-is-oppressive.blogspot.com/
http://youth-masculinity.blogspot.com/
I think it hits it on the head for the most part. I am assuming he backed up the survey statistics with real surveys. I would say that would be interesting on the tell people close in your family before your parents part. I wanted my parents to be the first so I wouldn’t have to back track. Any way just my though. I believe this to be accurate.
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